Habits to Remain Stress Resilient

We all have stress in our life. Some of it is all the have to’s, and some of it is good stress like a new job. Whether good or not so good stress it can create a sense of overwhelm. When it comes to recovery, stress is the number 1 reason for relapse. It is also one of the biggest causes of physical health problems. So it is important to create habits that make you less vulnerable to stress and also have the ability to bounce back when stress can’t be avoided.

So here are the 5 areas where you can create some armour to protect you from stress:

  1. Sleep – Most of us need from 7 to 9  hours of sleep. When we are fatigued we are much more vulnerable to things taking hold and stressing us out, when we are rested and refreshed it’s easier to let things roll off.Sleeping Koala Bear
  2. Nutrition – Eating a healthy diet can really go a long way in increasing our energy level which again makes us better prepared to handle stress. Processed foods, sugar, caffeine, Vegetablesfatty fried foods, all take a lot of energy for our physical body to digest with little nutritional value. Strive for more plant based foods and make the processed and junk food more of a treat than a regular thing.
  3. Exercise – There is no way around it, even if you don’t like doing it we need to move our bodies. If you can do it in nature you get bonus points for helping you feel more relaxed and increase your resiliency. Find something you enjoy and try to fit it in most days, even starting with taking a 10 minute walk on your lunch break is a great place toHiking shoes begin. Exercise can increase our ability to relax and it is an important part of keeping our body healthy and increasing our energy.
  4. Support and Leisure Activities – I put these together but they absolutely could be looked at individually. I combined them because what better way to have fun and enjoy yourHandstand on the Beach down time by doing something you love with someone you want to be with. Knowing you have a support system goes a long way in lowering our stress level. Having activities that you anticipate, where you can be creative, play all help you let go of the daily stressors. Smart Recovery calls them Vital Absorbing Creative Interests, make a list of leisure activities and your support system and have it somewhere handy at all times.
  5. Spiritual Practice – This can be a religious practice, but when I think of spirituality I actually mean things that fillYoga your spirit, lift your heart. It can be as simple as noticing and being in awe over a beautiful sunset, a meditation practice, reading inspirational stories, taking a yoga class. If you don’t have something like this already now is the time to get out of the box and try some new things.
  6.  Pay attention to self talk – So last but certainly not least, this is where we have a lot of power when it comes to stress. It is not the situation but our perception of the situation that creates our stress, so pay attention to what you are saying to yourself. If you tend to go to worst case scenario then dial it down a notch, things rarely turn out as bad as we think they will. Is it really that big a deal? Will the world end if you are a few minutes late? Are you constantly looking for what is wrong with a situation rather than what is right about it? Maybe it’s time for a thought tune up, try to make it through a day without a negative thought, it will take some practice but it is a great way to get in touch with how you talk to yourself.

What Are The Stages Of Change and Where Are You In The Process?

According to Prochaska and DiClemente there are 5 stages of change (6 if you include relapse, we’ll get to that). The 5 stages of change are Precontemplation, Contemplation, Preparation, Action, and Maintenance. It’s helpful to look at the stages to understand what steps you might need to take to continue to be successful in moving forward. So let’s take a look at each one.


If you were in precontemplation you wouldn’t likely be reading this post. Precontemplators don’t typically think they have a problem, they do a great job of rationalizing problems associated with their behaviors. The other possibility with precontemplation is that you have tried so many things to change and nothing has worked and you are now at the “Why Bother?” place and have basically resigned yourself to this is as good as it’s going to get. It’s unfortunate  but most of us don’t change until we have had some pretty severe consequences.


If you are in this stage of change, you are swinging back and forth between “I should change and it’s not really that bad is it?”  One day you feel really motivated to change and the next day you start to feel deprived about giving up the substance or behavior, or you fall back into the minimizing and rationalizing the effects of the behavior. There is a lot of ambivalence in this stage.

It’s helpful during this stage to do a pros and cons list, to think about your Values, are you living in a way that fits with what you believe is important. For instance, you say you want to save money to buy a home but you go out to eat more nights than not, you never say no to a night out at the local pub, you pull out the credit cards when you don’t really have the money for something. Once you start to think you have a problem it creates internal conflict each time you engage in the behavior, you may be able to rationalize or justify your actions but you won’t feel good about it.


In the preparation stage you have decided to go for it, it’s time to do something different. A lot of people once they have decided to change just jump right into action and miss this very important step. Taking the time to create a plan for change, identifying potential obstacles and creating strategies, developing your support system, are all parts of this stage that will create a higher likelihood of success. Deciding to attend a 12 step program, getting a coach or a therapist that will help to hold you accountable, or joining an online community can be a helpful part of this stage.

Breaking it down a little more let’s look at what a plan might include. When we develop a plan that includes small changes that are realistic we are more likely to be successful, using the theme of overspending maybe the first step is to limit eating out to 1 time a week and it might be helpful to plan menus for the other nights. Sustain that change for 30 days and then move to the next step. You might also start to develop a goal and a plan to get out of debt and set up an action step for that. The idea is to create change but at a pace that is sustainable.

Exceptions to moving forward in moderation are when there is a serious substance dependence. It’s not likely that you can drink less if you are alcohol dependent, and you should never go cold turkey without medical supervision if you are a heavy drinker or drug user.


Let’s do this thing. This is where you start the change process, you learn new coping strategies for stress, you rely on your support system, and you identify new activities. It is also important during this stage to identify feelings of loss and deprivation. With every change in life ideally we gain something but there is also a loss. If the change is that I am going to get my spending under control the obvious gain is that I will have more income, lower my debt, etc…

But the loss of immediate gratification, maybe having to say no to friends and social activities may seem like a big price to pay. It’s necessary to honor those feelings but also have the strategies in place so that it doesn’t feel like you are losing more than you are gaining. Maybe instead of a night out where the tab will end up being $60 to $90 in food and drinks you have friends over for a potluck BBQ, or board games where you BYOB.

And you definitely want to acknowledge our successes.


After about 6 months of success in the action stage you move into maintenance. In this stage you continue to sustain the commitment to change. You review your strategies and build on your goals for growth and continued movement forward.

If you have your debt under control and you have curbed your impulse spending, the next step might be to look at investment options, or even more ways to live on a budget and make a game out of finding great deals on items you use regularly. Continue to acknowledge success and use coping strategies if urges or impulses come up.

Using some of the strategies like EFT, MIndfulness, and Visualization can help to keep you moving forward and committed to your goals.


Hope this article was helpful, please leave any thoughts or comments.



This is a great read for anyone who is trying to change and has been caught in the cycle of addiction. It gives the background to support the idea that addiction is not a disease, but basically a habit that has taken over your life. It supports that you do have the choice to change and uses strategies such as Cognitive Therapy and Mindfulness, of course there is a good dose of self reflection, and as with all things it will work if you really do the suggested activities. There is no miracle cure but change is possible. It ranked 4.3  out of 5.0 on Amazon with 4 reviews.

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  1. I totally agree with you. All these steps help with stress. Another thing is self esteem and positive thoughts! If you choose to read one of my articles, they focus on depression and stress is one of the leading causes to depression. All of these steps certainly help out with both depression and stress. Thanks for sharing.

  2. I absolutely agree, our thoughts about ourself and the world around us have a huge impact on our overall health and stress level. I think we take ourselves way too seriously. It’s important to pay attention to self talk and challenge it once in awhile. Our thoughts are just that, thoughts not facts, not absolutes, we created them and we can change them to something more positive, more effective in helping us stay calm.

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